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Arguing and fighting can kill a relationship. Is there any relationship advice that can help?

There is, and it can be fun. However, before we get into that, it’s important to see that conflict is normal in healthy relationships. Two adults with different viewpoints and needs will argue from time to time. It’s gonna happen.

There is a lot you can learn about fighting “fair,” and turning conflict into caresses, while getting both your needs met in the relationship. But this article will focus on how to stop fighting before it can even erupt. Is there any way to stop battling in a relationship before it even begins?

Many times, yes! A study done on couples found this:

The more play there is in a relationship, the less fighting there is.

Does that sound obvious or what? The more the two of you play together, the less you will tend to have conflict about all the little things. And the better you will deal with other differences that do arise. It’s almost too simple, isn’t it? When you “play” with your mate, you will be less irritable and less likely to get upset about all the problems that can arise in a relationship.

Therefore, some simple relationship advice is that if you want to stop conflict before it arises, you need to add more play back into your relationship. The more you add back in, the more you will begin to notice a lessening of anger and argument between you.

Take a moment now to consider: How much play do you have in your relationship now? What do the two of you do together that you both enjoy? How often do you do things that you both enjoy?

In the beginning of our relationship, we played a lot. We went to dinner, movies, on long walks. We did lots of things together that we both really enjoyed. But then, as time rolls on, we may have got filled up with the pressures of family life and making a living and stopped have much fun with our partner. It’s easy to see that the less play, the more fighting.

The play is gone, leaving irritation and upset.

So if you’ve stopped playing much in your relationship, you should have already noticed you have a lot more disagreements and battles. Its normal. To make it less normal, here’s some fun relationship advice: go back to adding more play. Spend more quality “not quantity” of time together doing things you both enjoy. One date night a week can make a difference. When you do this, you’ll notice that it can be a very real and very fun way to stop fighting at the source.

It’s a happy way to stop conflict, don’t you think?