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One of the reasons many relationships break up is because of a lack of good communication. The couple stops talking about things that are important to them, then they can even stop talking about little things. Communicating with your partner is a form of intimacy. Not communicating with your partner is a way to kill off your relationship.

If this was involved in ending your relationship, there are some things you can do to get your ex back. You need to demonstrate that you can be a good listener and communicator.

This is not hard to do. To begin with, you can call your ex and tell him or her how you feel about them. Open up and share yourself, say what it is like to be without them, say what it feels like in your heart. Be vulnerable. Speak from your heart. It will often touch theirs.

The next thing to practice to get your ex back is to be a good listener. One way to do this is to ask them questions about how they feel, and get them to open up to you. You might say something like how do you feel about how I treated you?

There are several tricks to being a good listener. One of the first is ask questions like that and then shut up. Let there be silence. Let your ex take all the time they need to consider their feelings and begin to talk to you about them.

Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood. Say things like “I’m following you, please continue…” Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.

Another important listening skill is to not justify or defend yourself while your ex is telling you how you made them feel. Don’t argue, attack, or defend. Listen until they are done, make them feel heard, and at the end, if appropriate, apologize for any way you wronged your mate.

There is more to being a great communicator. But just starting with these few things can begin to turn things around. Your ex may see you in a new light, as someone interested in them and willing to listen. This can soften their heart.