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Getting good advice from those around you about getting your ex girlfriend back can be very hard. Most guys are told that there are other fish in the sea, and that they should move on and get a new girlfriend. If you want a different sort of advice, namely how to go about getting your ex girlfriend back, then pay attention because I’m going to spill the beans on some psychological methods that you can use to make her interested in a relationship again.

Understanding female psychology (what makes your girlfriend tick) is vital to your success if you really want to win her back. When you truly understand how her mind works, you will realize that nothing you say can make her take you back. Your break up had nothing to do with any words you spoke, and your potential make up won’t have anything to do with language, either. You’ll understand in a moment.

What you say to your ex girlfriend does not matter because words have nothing to with why she broke up with you. She may be dissatisfied or upset with you for any number of reasons, but the fact that she was actually able to bring herself to leave you is very significant because it means that she is no longer attracted to you! Attraction is a very powerful emotion, and she would not be able to leave you so easily if she were still attracted to you in the way she was when you first met. However, you can still rebuild that attraction. You’ve already proven that you hold the key, because you did it once before.

The most effective way that I know of to make your girlfriend come back to you is to truly master her mind. To do that, you need to learn a few things about female psychology. Don’t be intimidated by what I’m telling you, you don’t need to go to some special 4 year college to learn this!

This may sound outlandish, but you can control your girlfriend’s level of attraction for you with psychology, if you know a few tricks. Did you know that attraction is created, amplified, or destroyed in the brain? It’s no different from any other emotion. You can actually change the way your girlfriend feels to suit your cause!

This may sound a little sneaky or underhanded to you. Maybe you even think I’m evil for telling you this. But is there really anything wrong with using whatever means necessary to get your ex girlfriend back if you intend to treat her well? If you actually care about her, chances are you will treat her way better than the new guy she will probably otherwise end up with.

And the truth is, using psychology to make your girlfriend attracted to you all over again is often the only reliable way to make sure that you end up with her again. When the two of you are happy in each others arms again, do you think she’ll care about what sneaky techniques you used to make her come back? No, she won’t. That’s my advice for how to handle this situation with your ex girlfriend; take it as you will.

Are you ready to get your ex girlfriend back? Here is another important technique that you should learn to get her back: How to Make My Ex Girlfriend Jealous. If you just want to get over your ex girlfriend, then this should help: How to Get Over My Ex Girlfriend

Conflict will occur in any love relationship. When you understand that, you don’t need to think about giving up on the relationship. Your next relationship would just have more conflict in it. So learn to deal with conflict healthily now.

There are a few things you can do that are healthy when conflict arises. Practice these things and you are much more likely to get through the conflict without further damaging your relationship.

One of the first things you can do is to learn to breathe. It takes a while to learn this skill, to focus some on your breathing while in the middle of an argument. But just learning to breathe and take a few breathes will help you to stay calmer. This will help you to keep the argument from getting more heated.

Next, understand that conflict causes crappy conduct. Adults act like ten year old’s during a conflict. There’s screaming, crying, swearing, slamming of doors. It’s going to happen during some arguments.

A very healthy thing to learn is not to take it too personally. It isn’t personal, it is just adults being frustrated and acting like kids. Again, this takes a long time to learn, but try not to take it personally. We act like angry kids but only for a few minutes, then we regain control. Don’t let those few minutes of poor behavior overshadow all the good things you have between you.

Another powerful thing to do with conflict is to de-escalate it. Talk in a quieter tone of voice. Don’t interrupt your mate. Walk away for a few minutes til you get yourself under control. You don’t need to let arguments turn into world war three.

Practice reconnecting with your mate afterwards. Don’t let silence and anger build up between you. Be the adult and check in with your mate. Say “sorry we fought, are we okay?”

Arguments will happen between any two healthy adults. If you can take some time, breathe, calm things down, and reconnect after wards, then later you can discuss the issues more rationally with your mate. There is a lot more to dealing with conflict in a healthy way, but these things are a good start. It may take months to master any of them, but you should have lots of opportunities to practice.

You can learn much more about this in the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School at Train Your Mate. Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get more here Relationship Help Secrets.

One of the reasons many relationships break up is because of a lack of good communication. The couple stops talking about things that are important to them, then they can even stop talking about little things. Communicating with your partner is a form of intimacy. Not communicating with your partner is a way to kill off your relationship.

If this was involved in ending your relationship, there are some things you can do to get your ex back. You need to demonstrate that you can be a good listener and communicator.

This is not hard to do. To begin with, you can call your ex and tell him or her how you feel about them. Open up and share yourself, say what it is like to be without them, say what it feels like in your heart. Be vulnerable. Speak from your heart. It will often touch theirs.

The next thing to practice to get your ex back is to be a good listener. One way to do this is to ask them questions about how they feel, and get them to open up to you. You might say something like how do you feel about how I treated you?

There are several tricks to being a good listener. One of the first is ask questions like that and then shut up. Let there be silence. Let your ex take all the time they need to consider their feelings and begin to talk to you about them.

Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood. Say things like “I’m following you, please continue…” Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.

Another important listening skill is to not justify or defend yourself while your ex is telling you how you made them feel. Don’t argue, attack, or defend. Listen until they are done, make them feel heard, and at the end, if appropriate, apologize for any way you wronged your mate.

There is more to being a great communicator. But just starting with these few things can begin to turn things around. Your ex may see you in a new light, as someone interested in them and willing to listen. This can soften their heart.